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Should I adjust my standards?

Moonlight

Wadani
10091
Hi guys
First of all I never got married or engaged before, but I would like one.
My standards for a guy are:
-To not be abusive
-To not cheat
-Have a job
-Have at least one thing in common with me that we can bond over
-Have a sense of humor
-Be goal oriented or ambitious
-Be kind
-doesn’t drink or smoke
-no criminal background
People tell me often that what I’m looking for is unrealistic. I’ve tried dating apps and never get matches. I’ve gone to webbings & Somali gatherings but guys ignore me. What should I do? Plz don’t start the arranged marriage talk.
 

Enigma

Wadani
Qaxooti
View attachment 10091
Hi guys
First of all I never got married or engaged before, but I would like one.
My standards for a guy are:
-To not be abusive
-To not cheat
-Have a job
-Have at least one thing in common with me that we can bond over
-Have a sense of humor
-Be goal oriented or ambitious
-Be kind
-doesn’t drink or smoke
-no criminal background
People tell me often that what I’m looking for is unrealistic. I’ve tried dating apps and never get matches. I’ve gone to webbings & Somali gatherings but guys ignore me. What should I do? Plz don’t start the arranged marriage talk.
No nothing is wrong with your list, don’t adjust anything, I mean seriously farahs must up their games if they can’t fulfill this. :dame2:
 

4head

Wadani
Qaxooti
No nothing is wrong with your list, don’t adjust anything, I mean seriously farahs must up their games if they can’t fulfill this. :dame2:
That's why Halimos are single past 30 or they marry Jareer/Cadaan.
 

4head

Wadani
Qaxooti
Your standards seem al-right. But do you live upon your standards? Are you a person that someone will want to be with? Are you goal-oriented, employed, a graduate? Are you in shape and healthy? Are you kind and not abusive? You need to fit your standards and live upon them. Can't expect others to adapt to your standards. Become a person that's worth to be with.
 

Maslax

Wadani
Qaxooti
My goodness, how low the bar has gone down! These are run of the mill requirements in any relationship. Expectations for Faaraxs are embarrassingly low. No conviction? Must have a job? What’s next, must stand upright and not drag knuckles on the ground? 😂
 

Maki Xaji

#Justice4ShukriAbdi
Wadani
Qaxooti
I would suggest a preliminary fitness test before you converse with potential contenders. Thats what I plan on doing with potential xalimos, it weeds out the ones with weak mental fortitude.

Also, nice teeth is a standard you should add. Healthy bmi, passionate about whatever they do/passionate about a hobby they have etc.

tha list goes on!
 

Moonlight

Wadani
Your standards seem al-right. But do you live upon your standards? Are you a person that someone will want to be with? Are you goal-oriented, employed, a graduate? Are you in shape and healthy? Are you kind and not abusive? You need to fit your standards and live upon them. Can't expect others to adapt to your standards. Become a person that's worth to be with.
I am fit, hard worker, don’t drink or smoke....etc
 

AbtiRuckus

Wadani
Qaxooti
This isn't unrealistic and frankly 'Not abusive' 'Not cheat' Should be something everyone does naturally its weird how these are considered standards.
My no.1 standard for a man is 'Not serial killer'
 

Suldaanka Ceerigaabo

Wadani
Qaxooti
View attachment 10091
Hi guys
First of all I never got married or engaged before, but I would like one.
My standards for a guy are:
-To not be abusive
-To not cheat
-Have a job
-Have at least one thing in common with me that we can bond over
-Have a sense of humor
-Be goal oriented or ambitious
-Be kind
-doesn’t drink or smoke
-no criminal background
People tell me often that what I’m looking for is unrealistic. I’ve tried dating apps and never get matches. I’ve gone to webbings & Somali gatherings but guys ignore me. What should I do? Plz don’t start the arranged marriage talk.
A you cool with being no 3 or 4 wife with equal or close benefits
 

Sagal

#Justice4ShukriAbdi👑🍒
Wadani
My goodness, how low the bar has gone down! These are run of the mill requirements in any relationship. Expectations for Faaraxs are embarrassingly low. No conviction? Must have a job? What’s next, must stand upright and not drag knuckles on the ground? 😂
Lool
It is sad, but true walahi. I would rather be single for the rest of my life though.
 

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