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An ex-girlfriend of mine vented how she feels like Somali women are tired of their men and want something different. She said what many African women have told me, that "White men treat their women very well, and we want that for ourselves."
This may seem so at first glance, but if you take a deeper look, truly, misogyny - to this day - runs through all cultures. European culture is just as laced with misogyny as any other.
She cited to me how the man she was arranged to marry had raped her on their wedding night. She said this is considered normal in Somali culture.
"We got into the bedroom after our wedding, and I asked that he be gentle with me because it's my first time. He wasn't gentle at all, he just rammed his dick in and started pounding me with full aggression. I kept begging him to stop but he kept going. I was bleeding all over the bed. I had to run out of the bedroom, he chased me all over the house and grabbed me, yelling at me that he will finish this. He came in me, then just took a shower and left the house. I laid there that night feeling so broken, asking myself why does Allah do this? And what is wrong with our culture?"
I told her that her feelings are absolutely valid, and that this -isn't- normal, it -isn't- healthy, and it -isn't- supposed to be like this. She said she knows. I told her that he literally raped her, and she said yeah.
She hadn't told her father she was seeing me now that she's single. But he caught the vibe that she was seeing a white man, and was speechless at the idea.
He kept bringing random Somali men telling her that he will have her married to them. But she defied it every time. She told the men "I'm sorry that your time has been wasting coming all the way here to be told no, but I don't even know you, I've never met you nor do I know anything about you. I'm not interested." Her father became increasingly infuriated with each failed attempt.
She continuously expressed to her father that she had found a man that she is in love with, and he was devastated.
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These are all very valid feelings for Somali women to have, for more than obvious reasons.
It's understandable that they want to experience men of other cultures. But first - let's take a cautious look deeper at the other side.
White culture, if you ask me, is just as misogynistic, but in a different way. True equal gender right advocates are just as rare in white culture as they are in any other.
You see, in white culture, empowered women are considered undesirable. They are considered a threat, and they are subdued with the notion that they must be dependent on a man for any scrap of power for their own. This is a trap, of course. They surrender their own power on the promise that it will get them some... leaving them with none.
White women are taught that it is unlady-like to be able to fight or defend themselves. Unlady-like to be strong. Unlady-like to have their own drives and ambitions. And the unspoken fabricated rule is that it's unlady-like to have any personal agency whatsoever.
They are taught that they absolutely depend on men. Sure, it gives the false image that they are treated well and taken care of. But that's a smokescreen to the venom really happening.
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On the other hand, in Somali culture, powerful women are considered attractive. If you ask me, this is the healthy way to view the matter.
But from what my ex-girlfriend told me, the gender dynamic is rigged and engineered for men to have the ultimate victory and all of the glory.
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What are your thoughts? Let's brainstorm on solutions.
This may seem so at first glance, but if you take a deeper look, truly, misogyny - to this day - runs through all cultures. European culture is just as laced with misogyny as any other.
She cited to me how the man she was arranged to marry had raped her on their wedding night. She said this is considered normal in Somali culture.
"We got into the bedroom after our wedding, and I asked that he be gentle with me because it's my first time. He wasn't gentle at all, he just rammed his dick in and started pounding me with full aggression. I kept begging him to stop but he kept going. I was bleeding all over the bed. I had to run out of the bedroom, he chased me all over the house and grabbed me, yelling at me that he will finish this. He came in me, then just took a shower and left the house. I laid there that night feeling so broken, asking myself why does Allah do this? And what is wrong with our culture?"
I told her that her feelings are absolutely valid, and that this -isn't- normal, it -isn't- healthy, and it -isn't- supposed to be like this. She said she knows. I told her that he literally raped her, and she said yeah.
She hadn't told her father she was seeing me now that she's single. But he caught the vibe that she was seeing a white man, and was speechless at the idea.
He kept bringing random Somali men telling her that he will have her married to them. But she defied it every time. She told the men "I'm sorry that your time has been wasting coming all the way here to be told no, but I don't even know you, I've never met you nor do I know anything about you. I'm not interested." Her father became increasingly infuriated with each failed attempt.
She continuously expressed to her father that she had found a man that she is in love with, and he was devastated.
---
These are all very valid feelings for Somali women to have, for more than obvious reasons.
It's understandable that they want to experience men of other cultures. But first - let's take a cautious look deeper at the other side.
White culture, if you ask me, is just as misogynistic, but in a different way. True equal gender right advocates are just as rare in white culture as they are in any other.
You see, in white culture, empowered women are considered undesirable. They are considered a threat, and they are subdued with the notion that they must be dependent on a man for any scrap of power for their own. This is a trap, of course. They surrender their own power on the promise that it will get them some... leaving them with none.
White women are taught that it is unlady-like to be able to fight or defend themselves. Unlady-like to be strong. Unlady-like to have their own drives and ambitions. And the unspoken fabricated rule is that it's unlady-like to have any personal agency whatsoever.
They are taught that they absolutely depend on men. Sure, it gives the false image that they are treated well and taken care of. But that's a smokescreen to the venom really happening.
---
On the other hand, in Somali culture, powerful women are considered attractive. If you ask me, this is the healthy way to view the matter.
But from what my ex-girlfriend told me, the gender dynamic is rigged and engineered for men to have the ultimate victory and all of the glory.
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What are your thoughts? Let's brainstorm on solutions.
